An apology and half a blogpost.

I’ve had a revelation.

I believed that I was the most ‘perfect host’ that a blog could ever have.
I felt I was mature and could handle criticism and appreciation with equal grace.

I was proven wrong today.

This blogger totally lost his cool this morning. He could not tackle a counter-view and ended up creating a mess.

If you wish to know the exact thing, please check the comments on the previous blogpost. (The taxi-drivers of Guwahati).

I apologise. Sincerely.

Never before have I reacted in such a childish manner. I’ve had comments that have called ‘sexist’. ( on the post “Will you marry a raped girl?”).

Even then I was able to maintain composure and poise. Not today.

I’m still trying to figure out what went wrong. I read this comment in question the first thing in the morning. That’s not a great way to start a morning.

Perhaps that. Or maybe something else is bothering me inside.

I’m still trying to know why.

Meanwhile, I thought I’d leave you with some useful tips on how to tackle criticism on the web. (Yeah! I know you’re thinking, “Practise what you preach”).

But this is as much a post for you, as it is a reminder for me. Hope it’s useful :

1. Don’t reply immediately.

2. Read the comment(s) a few times and analyse.

3. Thank the person first of all for his comment.

4. If there’s any clarification needed, first clarify in a friendly tone.

5. While replying, don’t take it too personally. It’s just a blogpost and not the end of the world.

6.Make your point and stop. Don’t go for more explanation than needed.

7.Finally, while writing a post and replying to comments it’s wise to remember that not everyone will subscribe to the same view.

Please add any other useful tips you have in your comments.

I’ll try to be a better blogger.

How do you respond to criticism?

“There is no mistaking the dismay on the face of a writer who has just heard that his brain child is a deformed idiot” – L. Sprague de Camp.

So true.

It hurts.
You spend hours going over the thing. You edit and re-edit it. And then. . . . BANG!

There comes that harsh, honest bit of criticism that hits you in the face, and throws a thousand questions at you.

There’s something so personal about writing that the slightest criticism hits us below the belt.

The question is how do you deal with it. Do you respond?
Do you keep quiet?
Do you hit back and explain your point-of-view?

Now, there’s constructive and destructive criticism. There’re good critics and there’re bad critics.

But my point is should an artist spend any time/energy in defending a work of art? It’s a work of art. It’s a representation of what one felt at a certain time, on a certain day.

There are no bad feelings or good feelings.

Feelings are just feelings .

They are the plain truth. Should we temper them to suit the needs of the readers? Is it even worth it?

Those of us who write acknowledge the fact that we write as much for ourselves as much for the readers. Or perhaps more.

In every blogpost, every article, every book, there’s one character that’s us. We may not be the protagonist. But we’re there in the story, in some dark alley sitting on a bench. But we’re there.

Is there any need to justify our ‘being’ in the scene? Our feelings? Our points of view? OUR STORY.

I don’t think so. Every single soul has a story to tell. And every story must be told, whether people like it or not.

How do you respond to criticism?