In a previous post titled “The years are numbered”, I wrote about how I was unhappy with the past five months in which I had only worked and not done a lot of things that I wanted to.
I have been trying to change that a lot. I have started music again. I have started exploring again. A creative project however couldn’t be started for the paucity of time.
But, one of the things I couldn’t change was not making new friends regularly.
However, much later, I realised that perhaps making friends will never be the way we know it to be.
I realise that people of my generation will probably only be able to make healthy friendships and connections through social media.
That is because of the way our lives are – busy and disjoint.
Where is the space and time for socialising?
At least, I am struggling to find it.
I don’t mean to say that.
What I mean is social media can be a good place to start with. You read a person’s posts, see what he shares, know about what causes he is associated with, and suddenly, there is this natural affinity for him.
You have him in your friend list, but you’ve never had a chat with him. You try and have a conversation and you find out more about this guy. You read his blog, and really connect with what he writes.
One day, as fate would have had it, you need to move to his city. You let him know you are coming. You plan to meet up for dinner at his place; he introduces his family to you. There are his friends present who soon become your friends too. He plays the guitar; you sing and have a lovely evening – better than most evenings spent at your place.
This really happened to me, and this is why I believe how we forge friendships and a relationship is fast changing.
Mostly, it is changing for the good.
Otherwise, how do you explain an elderly man letting a young man from foreign shores, who he knows only through social media, call him “grandpa”?
How would you otherwise explain the long Google hangout sessions that grandpa and grandson have, despite a faltering internet connection, different accents and what not?
They could be having the same conversations sitting around the fire, and nothing would be different. How could you explain the guilt that grandson feels when he does not write long emails to grandpa for quite some time?
I am at a loss.
Someone I know from the time of “Voices for Damini” campaign is now one of my most valued friends. She is lady of such charm, and dignity. Every day, I learn from her posts, her status updates, her blog posts. The causes she takes up, the twitter activism she does really starts to rub off on you, and you do not realise how and when she has become an inspiration for you.
A blog-friend from America promises she will visit India soon, visit me and chat for a long time.
I do not like that school of thought looking down upon social media as a virtual life for nerds. We have to realise that behind social media, behind every post, every blog, every comment is a breathing, living individual, who is unique, and who wants to connect to you.
In all probability, that person too wants to reach out.
Social media just provides you the platform by rendering useless physical distances, and the rest is up to you.
How you make connections is up to you!