Is it that hard to do? – asks Namrata Mahalingam

It’s 2013. A new year filled with new hopes, new aspirations, new goals and of course resolutions which we tend to break at the drop of a hat.

However,this year is different.

The brutal gang rape and murder of the 23year old girl in Delhi reflects our society’s actual state. Sexual assault on women at workplace, schools, private vehicles, public transports, roads and almost all possible places shows the carelessness of not just our Government but of us as well.

Most of the time a woman has to deal with eve-teasers all by herself as we merely spectate the whole scenario without uttering a word in her support.

What do we, as the responsible members of this society, do when we watch a woman being sexually harassed in public transport? Do we stand up for her or leave her on her own as if we do not care?

What if back home our sister or mother or wife or daughter narrate a painfully helpless situation to us about the kind of humiliation and assault they were subjected toby their co-worker or a roadside romeo?

How would we feel if we happen to know that absolutely no one raised their voice against this shameful act? I don’t see a reason for us to feel bad as we din’t raise our voice either when someone else’s sister/mother/wife/daughter was being eve-teased.

I happen to recall an incident which happened a few months ago wherein some bastard on a bicycle hit my Mom hard on her bum as he rode away. My Mom shouted at the top of her voice running behind him and asking people to catch hold of him. No one did anything and that jerk, despite being on a bicycle, escaped. Such is our society. And so are we.

We love being spectators.

Instead of taking resolutions like quitting smoking or drinking or any such resolution which we know we will never follow, let’s take an oath to raise our voice against any offense that we witness. Let’s promise to safeguard a woman’s self respect by being by her side even if she’s a stranger.

Let’s resolve to stand up for a woman in need and object any kind of obscene behavior and lewd comments passed at her.
Let’s not let some insane sadist take away a woman’s innocence and self respect and leave her only to be humiliated by the society till she lives.
Is this hard to do?

WRITTEN BY : Namrata Mahalingam (


4 comments on “Is it that hard to do? – asks Namrata Mahalingam

  1. gita4elamats says:

    Let’s start by calling a spade a ‘spade’ and ‘eve-teasers’, sexual assaulters!

  2. Excellent. I was going to write a post about this 🙂 . Eve teasing.

  3. Beechmount says:

    Although referring to Queen Victoria may not be the best thing to do on an Indian blog post, I dare to briefly quote her–something like this: Good manners are essential for ??? India may not have any great love for the long passed Queen, but she did have a point when she said that.

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