On role-models. . .

Have you observed that as we grow older (and wiser?), we stop having role-models or heroes altogether?

We don’t really want to ‘be’ like somebody anymore. Of course, there are exceptions.
But, generally speaking, we stop having these role-models.

Why? And, is it a good thing?

My theory is that as we spend more time on Earth, the darker sides of our heroes reveal themselves to us. The flaws. The shortcomings. The fall from grace. We come to understand that nobody really is perfect. And heroes are not really heroes.

And with age, there also comes a different tendency – the willingness to accept ourselves, just as we are – to still love ourselves, despite the perceived inadequacies.

Maybe, our standards for perfection gradually lower, with age and wisdom.

Or, maybe we start having different standards altogether???

In any case, more often than not, we do end up loving ourselves more. We end up stopping mentally punishing ourselves for not matching up to someone else’s standards.
We are no longer apologetic about ‘being’ us.

To my mind, that is a fantastic achievement.

I believe this is what children should be taught from the very beginning.
To love themselves, to not bother about matching up to everyone in everything, to be not embarrassed of themselves.

They should be told that no one really is perfect. And that, perfection is an illusion.
They should be told that comparing themselves to anyone else is an insult to their Creator.

Maybe, that way, we could save many a young talent from being nipped in the bud.

What do you think?

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7 comments on “On role-models. . .

  1. Snehal Sahay says:

    Well, yes.
    By the way, what do you call me? I never had ever a role model…I never wanted to be like anyone…(my friends called me insane at that) Is it really that abnormal? :O

  2. You are a refreshing exception 🙂

  3. DEBABRATA says:

    FANTASTIC………I AGREE WITH THE PHILOSOPHY . SOMEWAY OR OTHER WE ALL FEEL IN THE SAME WAY BUT YOU CLUBBED THEM IN WORDS NICELY,

  4. Oh my God! A comment from you! Today is the happiest day of my entire blogging journey. Thanks a lot! Wonderful feeling.

  5. DEBABRATA says:

    IT’S OH MY GOD MOMENT FOR ME TOO AND CREDIT GOES TO YOU. YOUR THOUGHT MELTS MY RELUCTANCE TO WRITE.

  6. Exactly… There is a friend of mine, who is currently pursuing her M.Sc. and this year when her cousin scored superbly in his Secondary examination a sudden comparison arose… people in her family cruel enough to punish her emotionally just because 6 yrs back she didnt manage to score more than 80%.. I mean comparison with other people really breaks our morale, our belief in ourselves… having a role model is good but we must ensure that we dont end up aping their lives and start or at least try to live our own life….

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